Dating

Hello everyone, this week I am going to be talking about the dating situation. The first thing I am going to talk about is historical dating trends and patterns. Up until recent years, society has had a very different approach to dating. In fact, there was a little "timeline" or stages that people would follow while looking for a potential match. The first step was dating. It was common for many people to go out on multiple casual dates with multiple people. Whether it was hiking, bowling, dancing, or an array of other activities, these kids would do it. This is the stage where people learn what personalities or traits they like in a person, and what they don't. The second of the stages was courtship. During this period of time, a couple would start exclusively dating and getting to know the person on a deeper level while still doing these fun activities. This is the time when you will truly get to know someone and connect with them. Third, an engagement, then lastly marriage. These stages of dating were how most people ended up finding their spouse. However, in these recent days, the current dating trends completely contradict the "old-fashioned" ones. People now tend to hang out with a bigger group instead of actually dating. It is not bad to go on group dates, but it is also a good idea to connect one-on-one. Taking multiple people out to do a variety of fun activities with lots of people with a half-hearted attempt at asking a specific person is why it is harder to find people to go on dates with. This is very different from seeking someone out and asking with the intent of getting to know the person. People tend to go to movies or things like that. Going to activities like that, ones where you aren't really talking, make it harder to get to know the person that you asked. The whole point is to get to know the person, but people tend to shy away from smaller groups or more open environments. More often than not, people will completely skip marriage and go on to make families, move in together, and start their lives together without the crucial step of sealing yourself to that person. It takes the sacred nature of living together and building a life and turns it into something casual. Another thing that throws off the historical dating pattern is the "taking phase." Instead of the dating phase, they just text or talk. It isn't as serious and while they are connecting, there isn't any commitment. You can go into depth, but there is only so far you can get while you are not actually together. This also applies to online dating. People on the internet always show the best versions of themselves. They can hide whatever they want about themselves in order to make themselves seem more desirable. Because of that, no one can truly get to know someone. You also cannot guarantee that this person is being faithful, or even see them in person. Which is critical for building a stronger relationship. Dating is crucial to finding a person that you will spend the rest of your life with. You need to find the right ways to connect and get to know people. If you don't, you could find yourself being in a toxic relationship, or even being lied to. Which is what we all are trying to avoid. The current methods are not bad, but be sure to be careful, make deep connections, and follow your intuition.